WARNING: This posting is for women about to start the divorce process, are currently going through a divorce, or are recently divorced. If you know someone who is getting a divorce, please forward to them immediately, they will thank you profusely for it.
The divorce process can be just so… overwhelming/exhausting/frustrating/long/emotional/fill in your adjective here. Just when you think you’ve done the hard part and admitted you are getting divorced, you are slammed with even more emotions, frustrations from your soon to be ex, homework from your attorneys and other professionals, and oh yea…everyday life. The light at the end of the tunnel seems to be turned off, and you are thinking how on earth am I going to get through this and survive? I can barely make it through a day without breaking down and crying/cursing/wanting to crawl back in bed.
And you feel alone, so utterly alone. Everyone wants to give you their two cents, but none of them really know what you are going through. Everyone is an “expert” and gives advice because their sister went through a divorce, their neighbor got the marital home in her divorce, and their cousin got $10,000 in alimony. Yes, we’ve heard it all, and everyone is talking at you but no one is listening to you. It’s amazing how we can feel so alone while everyone is there talking. But like I said, they are giving advice, insights, and past experiences, but none of it applies to you because they aren’t hearing you.
h and one more thing, you have no idea where to start…to start to feel normal again, to start to get your money back on track, to start a new life, or to start the divorce process. So you feel alone, overwhelmed and confused, with no idea what to do. After speaking with hundreds of women (divorcing, divorced, and divorce professionals) and helping dozens of women get through a divorce, I’ve decided enough was enough. Enough women feel this way, and because of this, I wanted to create a breakthrough divorce workshop, Divorced and Alive Again. Our first workshop is on February 11th from 9 a.m. to 12 p.m., at Foran Financial Group, 54 Grove Street Suite 2A Somerville, NJ 08876. There will be a panel of divorce professionals including the following:
- Jessica Weaver, CFP®, CDFA™, CFS®, Money Management and Money Coaching,
- Joan Geiger, Family Law Attorney and Mediator,
- Susan Friedman, LCSW, DVS, BCD, Divorce Therapist and Coach,
- Darlene Shaffer, CPA/ABV/CFF, CVA, and
- William P. Lemega, Family Law Attorney, Lyons & Associates, P.C., Sr. Associate
The workshop is geared towards women, and the goal is to give you the skills necessary to navigate through your divorce with tools for your mind, heart, and wealth (wallet???). There will be no cost for the workshop, which is a limited time offer so RSVP now by clicking below. All responses must be in by February 3rd since seating is limited. It will be a great day where you can join other women going through the same process as you and women who have been there and gotten through it.
To get you started, here are my Do’s and Don’ts of Divorce:
- Do prepare a budget.
- Do review your monthly bank and financial statements, make copies for divorce professionals.
- Do review all tax returns that have been filed jointly or separately by your spouse.
- Do make sure all taxes have been paid to date.
- Do review contents of any safety deposit boxes.
- Do get emotional support for yourself such as friends, support groups, therapist.
- Do review your credit card statements.
- Do make sure all mortgage payments/rent payments are up to date.
- Don’t make large purchases or create additional debt.
- Don’t quit your job
- Don’t move out of the house before consulting with your attorney.
- Don’t transfer or give away jointly owned assets.
- Don’t sign a blank financial statement or any other documents without reviewing it with your attorney.
There will be an abundance of even more helpful information at the workshop. We want you to leave and feel more in control than ever with more confidence than you’ve felt in a long time. Get empowered! You can do this and not only survive it but thrive in your new life. We want you to stop feeling scared and overwhelmed by the process, and sign up now. Take a leap of faith that your divorce doesn’t have to be the end of your life. For more information email Jessica.Weaver@raymondjames.com and register by clicking the link below.
Jesssica Weaver, CFP®, CDFA™, CFS®
Raymond James is not affiliated with and does not endorse the opinions or services of Joan Geiger, Susan Friedman, William Lemega, or the organizations they represent. Any opinions are those of Jessica Weaver and not necessarily those of RJFS or Raymond James.